Is Destination Happiness Holding You Back?

How To Stop Self Sabotaging and Live The Life You Truly Deserve

Have you ever stopped to really ask yourself - what makes you happy? What makes you smile, what makes you passionate? Are you living the life you feel you deserve today? OR are you trapped in this idea of "destination happiness" I will be happy IF

• I get married

• If get that job

• I had love/marriage

• I made more money

If you have found yourself in the space you may be stalling your true happiness with destination happiness. Destination creates the idea that you can only be happy if you accomplish a list of goals you have set for yourself. Let's take a look at some things we can UNLEARN so that we can take a step in the true direction of authentic happiness.

You can start breaking the pattern of destination happiness with these three small steps:

Tip #1 - Choosing Happiness

I already hear the groans "easier said than done" but actually this is the easiest of all choices. Choosing to be happy really is a daily intentional effort. This is not the absence of frustration, it is the intentional decision that every single day you will find at least one thing that makes you feel happy. It doesn't matter how small the win is finding a daily reason to smile raises your mood and ability to build greater job and satisfaction in your overall life.

Tip #2 - Being Honest With Yourself

Are the things you wanting really going to make you happy are is there something deeper you are willing to deal with? Often times we convince ourselves that we would be happier if we accomplished a set of goals when the truth is we have some healing to do that we have been unwilling to face and process.

"Be happy about what you have. Be excited about what you want"

– Alan Cohen–

Tip #3 - Accountability

Owning that the you are contributing to your own delay in experiencing joy. You are either failing to appreciate where you are, doing things that move you in the opposite direction of what you wanted, or reluctant to do the work it takes to get there. Things like this would look like wanting a loving relationship, but staying in a relationship that does not provide love or emotional safety. Another example is wanting to advance in your career but being unwilling to do the training and development to get there. We make excuses for why we settle, or procratemplate-how-to-write-a-tips-blog-poststinate when the truth is we make a decision not to align our actions with our goals.

Taking control of your your choices and trusting the process is a powerful way to start breaking the cycle of destination happiness. You attract what you want when you live in a state of appreciation for what you have. Are you ready to ditch the destination, trust the process and live in the now? Stay tuned as we we share tips and tools to help you on your joy journey.